The Betrayal Bond by Patrick J. Carnes

Breaking Free of Exploitive Relationships

A practical guide to understanding and breaking the powerful attachments that form with people who harm or exploit us, it explains how trauma, intermittent reinforcement, shame, and power imbalances create compulsive bonds in families, romances, workplaces, and groups. Using case examples and self-assessments, it helps readers recognize denial, secrecy, and arousal cycles that keep them trapped. It then offers clear steps for recovery—establishing safety, setting boundaries, grieving losses, building accountability, and finding support—to reclaim autonomy and form healthier connections.

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