How To Know A Person by David Brooks

The Art of Seeing Others Deeply and Being Known

A concise guide to cultivating deeper human understanding, arguing that truly knowing someone requires sustained attention, curiosity, humility, and a willingness to be vulnerable. Drawing on psychology, literature, interviews, and personal stories, it diagnoses modern obstacles—speed, social media, stereotyping—that flatten people into roles or data points, then offers practical habits and questions to listen better, slow down, hold others in fuller narratives, and build relational practices and communities where people can grow. Ultimately it presents knowing another person as both an ethical and spiritual practice that enriches individuals and society.