How To Have Impossible Conversations by Peter Boghossian

A Very Practical Guide

A practical guide to navigating high‑stakes disagreements by prioritizing curiosity, humility, and rapport over winning arguments. It offers step-by-step techniques—from establishing shared goals and asking calibrated questions to steelmanning, using scales, and exploring disconfirmation—that help people examine beliefs without defensiveness. Through examples and exercises, it shows how to de-escalate tension, avoid common pitfalls like moralizing or mind reading, and keep conversations collaborative. The aim is to foster clearer thinking, mutual understanding, and productive dialogue even across deep ideological divides.